Lady Blasts Man Who Collected Her Number Without Paying for Her Food: "Omo, Hunger Dey"
- A young Nigerian man trended on social media after he posted a video showing what a lady sent to him
- He mentioned that he went to a restaurant, met a lady, and collected her phone number before messaging her
- The man shared the lady’s response online, and everything she said about him made the video go viral
A Nigerian man who met a lady at a restaurant and collected her number shared the reply she gave when he messaged her on WhatsApp.
Many people who came across the post reacted to the lady's response as she fired at him in anger because of what he did to her.
Source: TikTok
Man collects lady’s number at restaurant
She explained that what he did was wrong and made him know that she can't be with someone like that, claiming he has a broke energy.
The individual, @henry_iz7, shared the post and explained the incident in the caption.
The description of the TikTok video read:
"I collect a girl's number at a restaurant."
As the TikTok video played, she asked why the guy was texting her after he couldn't pay for her meal when he collected her number in the restaurant despite knowing she was also buying food.
She expected him to pay for her meal since he collected her number and mentioned that he failed the first impression.
Her statement:
"Yes, how many I help you? Because at this point I don't think you can help me. You met me in a restaurant and we’re buying food together, I gave you my number, like are you not supposed to, like as you're paying for your own, you pay for my own as well? But what you did was that you just paid for only your own. Like why are you telling me hi?"
Source: TikTok
"So you think I can date somebody like you? So you think I want to start up something with you with that kind of mentality? At least you're trying to toast a girl, are you not supposed to sort her bills?
"You're buying food together with me, like are you not supposed to sort my own bills? You just paid for your own bills.
"You're coming to chat me up now, I don't understand. What are you chatting me up for? Tell me why you're chatting me up. I don't want that kind of broke energy in my side, please.
"You saw me and you're attracted to me. I was even thinking that you're going to pay for the bills. You just paid only for yourself and you collected my number, are you serious? That doesn't make sense to me. Please don't chat me up. I don't think I can ever have something to do with someone like you because first impression matters, your first impression was really bad."
Many people who watched the video reacted to what she said in the comments section.
Reactions as lady shames man for bills
ADEYEMI added:
"Omo hunger deyyyyyyyyy"
OGECHI stressed:
"I’m a girl but pls have you block the thing."
Augustine Theresa noted:
"She's right thou, but she for no express herself."
Mavis Omar wrote:
"As a gentle guy that's a cute thing to do."
Aminat said:
"She's outspoken thou, some of us will just ignore your message, even if she will reject your offer make you no go call her almajiri later, at least still offer that's courtesy, better still you can wait for her outside the restaurant to get her number, I come in peace o make some mummy no come rush me abeg na opinion i share."
XX shared:
"He’s very wrong for what he did. He should have paid for her food, ask her to take more for her family at home, send pocket money for her and her family and also buy a brand new car to take her home and also relocate her family to ikoyi tbh. Men need to do better."
T - zee asked:
"Are you a Almajiri."
and.i.sch added:
"Omo see ritual ingredient, can i have her contact pls?"
Oluwayomi shared:
"Omo the fact that he wanted to collect number doesn’t mean he has to pay, that’s entitlement…in some instance some guys will even pay for your food without asking for number."
slimzeyart stressed:
"Na #750 remain for opay after she paid for the food."
MikkyStaVia noted:
"Her first impression na ALMAJIRI."
chinenye Loveth said:
"True true you suppose pay that’s what gentlemen do though her response isn’t good at all,in situations like this when the man approach me I will just tell him I have a boyfriend so he can take a break."
The story of the young man sparked conversations online, with many social media users sharing their opinions and debating the expectations placed on the lady.
To add expert insight and clear common misconceptions, Legit.ng reached out to a relationship therapist and marriage counselor at GoRu Academy, Mr. Ogwuche Godson.
When asked whether it is right for a man to foot a woman’s bill at a restaurant simply because he collected her phone number, Mr. Godson shared his view:
"Let me be honest, no. It is not a rule that a man must pay for a woman’s food just because he collected her number. Collecting a number simply shows interest, not a signed agreement. In a healthy interaction, nothing should be forced or assumed."
"That said, many men choose to pay as a gesture of kindness or courtesy, not out of obligation. The problem starts when expectations are not communicated. If a woman expects payment, she should be clear. If a man offers, it should come from his heart, not pressure."
"Relationships and connections should be built on mutual respect, clarity, and consent, not entitlement or silent assumptions."
Legit.ng further asked who should bear the responsibility of paying the bill when a man and a woman meet at a restaurant.
He explained:
"Honestly, when two strangers meet at a restaurant, there should be a clear understanding from the start about who is paying. No one should assume. If a man invited the woman to eat, it is generally respectful for him to pay. That is basic courtesy. But if they met there by chance, or both ordered food without a clear invitation, then each person should be ready to pay for their own meal."
"The problem we see in stories like this is assumption. The man may think, ‘Since I am talking to her, I do not need to pay.’ The woman may think, ‘Since he approached me, he should pay.’ When expectations are not communicated, disappointment and anger follow."
After addressing how such issues can be avoided, Mr. Godson also offered advice to people entering relationships.
He concluded:
"My advice is simple. Clarity saves relationships and dignity. Paying a bill should never be forced, and it should not be used as a test of love or interest. A man paying should come from willingness, not pressure. A woman should never feel entitled just because someone asked for her number. Respect and communication should always come first."
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In a similar story, Legit.ng reported that a Nigerian lady cried out after discovering that a fellow student took her phone number from a classroom attendance book without her knowledge.
Man floods lady’s WhatsApp after meeting her
Meanwhile, Legit.ng earlier reported that a Nigerian lady shared the messages she got after giving her phone number to a man.
She said the man started replying to everything she posted on WhatsApp with the same word again and again. Her inbox became full of the same message, and it made her laugh. Many people also reacted after she showed the messages online.
Proofreading by Funmilayo Aremu, copy editor at Legit.ng.
Source: Legit.ng
