Single Mother Shares Why Her Son Won’t Look for His Father When He Grows Older, People React
- A Nigerian single mother openly said that her son would not look for his father when he grows older
- She mentioned the reasons in a viral post that caught people’s attention on social media as it trended
- The lady, who claimed she made the post because of people's comments about her son, generated buzz online
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A single mother, Ugochukwu Precious Ugomma, shared why her son won’t go looking for his father when he grows older.
She said this as a reply to people who always told her that her son, Satya, would look for his father.
Source: TikTok
On her Facebook page, she gave reasons why her son won’t do such, sparking reactions from many.
She said in her post:
“Funny how the comment section rings with, “ Satya will grow up to look for him if I don't mend things now. Well, note this; Children don’t go searching for the ones who were absent in their lives — they hold on to the ones who stayed. They grow with the love they felt, not the empty promises they never received.
"My son knows who has been there. He knows who wipes his téars , who holds him when he’s afraid, who sacrif!ces daily to see him smile. That bond cannot be br0ken by someone who suddenly wants to wear a title they never earned.
"Presence speaks louder than words. And in my son’s life, it is my presence, my love, and my sacrif!ce that will always matter most. This isn’t the 90s where children run off looking for who walked away. Today’s children know better. They know who was present, who held them, who sacrificed everything just to see them smile.
"Satya won't grow up to look for anyone. Because in every day of his life, he will wake up always hearing that I matter most. This is what I will always remind him of.”
Source: Facebook
A single mother, Angela Edeme, spoke to Legit.ng about whether she would allow her child to develop a relationship with her father despite his absence in her early years.
She responded:
"Well, it depends on her age. If she's not up to 18, I wouldn't even allow that. I wouldn't even create that atmosphere because if you can't take care of a child from when a child is born to when a child is even 16, I don't know what you want to come and do when a child is 18 again. So I won't encourage it. I won't encourage it because he was not there when it was all tough.
The early years of being a single mom are when the child is still young and not even up to adulthood, where a child can make decisions or be independent on their own. So, giving the child access to the father is only if the father actually wants access to the child, and it all depends on how mature the child is.
So, for instance, if my daughter gets to 18, 19, 20, and she's asking about that, I'll make her know who her dad is. I'll let her know where the last time I heard from him and if she still wants to pursue it, I won't press or push it."
Reactions trail single mother’s post about son
Samuel Precious said:
"Everything you said here is true and I pray it works for you dear.... Buh as a man to be, he might one day just want to know about his dad( friends and colleagues might push him or say things that will hurt him and he will ask questions in future)."
@Usman Fatima Ize said:
"I can't even imagine what you must have gone through to see this boy to this age. The weight must be heavy. You've done a great job but since we're on the topic, I will advise that you don't get your hopes up regarding this."
@Chusy Yo Anyafulu said:
"Stop being emotional for nothing. The boy belongs to you both. From all indications, he also want to be in life of the boy but you use emotions to scare him away. Both of you must not marry rather agree for coparenting."
@NappyChris Elijah said:
"Women supporting women ...so u want to have the boy alone to ur self as en make the papa no even get close to the boy . Madam I know say the papa don do wrong but u can't denied him of his own blood. Is better u take it easy up on urself."
In related stories, a single mum celebrated after getting married, while a widowed mother of 6 shared why she remarried.
Single mother shares dating experience
Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a single mother shared her experience after revealing she has six children to a man she had been talking to for about a week.
During their first date, the man’s mood changed when she told him about her kids, which affected the outing.
Many reacted as she shared what the man did next after their discussion about the kids got into the date.
Source: Legit.ng
