Nigerian-Canadian Lawyer Shares Why She Never Wants to Have Husband or Children: "I Will Go Insane"
- A Nigerian lawyer in the diaspora has declared on social media that she never wants to be a wife or mother
- The Nigerian-Canadian opened up about her stance on marriage and childbearing, saying she would go insane if she married or had children
- While proudly admitting that she is selfish, the lawyer gave reasons why marriage and being a mum are not for her
A Nigerian-Canadian lawyer, @ada_daddie, has explained why she never wants to marry or have children.
The legal practitioner in the diaspora said it would make her go insane to be a wife or mother.
Source: TikTok
Why lawyer detests marriage and childbearing
In a TikTok video, the lawyer admitted that she is selfish and loves her own space more than anything.
She believes love is from within and stated that she does not need companionship, as she already has family, relatives, and good friends.
She maintained that she is very self-reliant and does not require love from another person in the form of a husband to live a good life. Her statement partly read:
"I will go insane with a husband and children. That is me, and that's why I never want to get married.
"I am selfish, I know, and I hold it with my full chest. When I wrote a list of why I wanted to get married, that's when I never want to get married.
"So, companionship is out of it 'cause I love my space. I like to come back from work or wherever it is and open my door knowing nobody is around.
"...Honestly, I love that shi.t. I like to go on solo dates, I like to go on solo travels. I have enough companions. I have family, I have relatives, I have good friends, Um, love? I can love myself.
"Love is from within. I cannot outsource love. Someone else should not love me better than myself, and I don't need additional love.
"All the love that I need is within. I don't need support from one particular person, who is my husband. I have support from family and friends. That's why they are there. Right? That as I support them, they also support me.
"I don't need a ride or die. I am my ride or die..."
Source: TikTok
Watch her video below:
Lawyer's stance on marriage sparks reactions
Legit.ng has compiled some reactions to the lawyer's stance on marriage below:
TolaG said:
"Truth be told, there are way more couples either struggling insanely in their marriage or/and have broken up. And I'll also say this "not everything is for everyone." Meaning both marriage isn't for everyone and so is being unmarried. Fulfilment is different for everyone, whether partnered or happily solo."
Sheyifunmi360 said:
"I'm glad we are more out there 🤗 I used to think I am fashioned differently because of my choices."
amy nash said:
"I like my space but I’m okay with a partner in the room next house not in the same house tho. I need you when I want and I can leave."
June🫦❤️Gemini queen said:
"I never knew I am not meant to be married, I love myself, I love my space nd my own company.i have grown to be my own person."
TolaG said:
"If only more people were brave in admitting to themselves all what you've just said. Kudos and bless you Sister."
dreezy87 said:
"Aunty ada u forgot say, u say u want young guy from 21 to 25 i still dey Nigeria who go bring come Canada now."
Sparkles ✨ said:
"Exactly this! I saw a lady who eventually got married but she had explained how much she enjoyed her space to her husband and because of that they both live in separate houses on the same street."
In a related story, Legit.ng reported that a Nigerian lady had declared that she would never marry or have children.
Lawyer who doesn't want marriage
Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a lawyer had shared eight reasons she might not get married.
In a post on TikTok, the lawyer, who identifies as a feminist, described marriage as a selfish union, where women are expected to sacrifice more.
The first reason the lawyer gave, in her video, was that she doesn't like sharing her space with anyone. Next, she said she doesn't like being told what to do.
Source: Legit.ng
