She’s Been Paying My Bills: Man Speaks About Oyinbo Lady He Met on Facebook Since Job Loss

She’s Been Paying My Bills: Man Speaks About Oyinbo Lady He Met on Facebook Since Job Loss

  • Bernard Musyoki, 35, is madly in love with his 70-year-old Mzungu wife Deborah Jan, a mother of two
  • The Mzungu woman recently underwent heart surgery, and Mussyoka said he really wants to travel to the US to be with her because she lives alone
  • Musyoki showered his princess with love, revealing that he is very supportive
  • The Kenyan man said he is genuinely in love with the woman who is twice his age and not after money as some people claim

Bernard Musyoki and Deborah Jan Spicer's relationship is a great example of true love wins.

Bernard Musyoki and Deborah Jan.
Bernard Musyoki and Deborah Jan met on Facebook and are happily married. Photo: Bernard Musyoki.
Source: UGC

How we met

Musyoki, a Kenyan man who hails from Kitui county, in an exclusive interview with, said he met Deborah, 70, on Facebook in 2017.

"I sent her a friend request, after a week, I asked her to marry me and she accepted. We even exchanged vows inbox," he recalled.

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In 2018, the 35-year-old said he was to travel to the US to meet his princess, but he was denied a visa, but never gave up.

"In March 2020, I applied for a visa again, did an interview but I was denied a visa," he said.

They maintained strong communication

They kept communicating, and on December 29, 2020, the Mzungu woman decided to travel to the country to meet her prince charming. Upon arriving in the country, they travelled to Kitui, where Musyoki lives and decided to stay pure until marriage.

"We used to sleep in different rooms and promised each other to stay pure until we exchanged vows.We had someone in the house who used to live with us," he narrated.

On February 2, 2021, the two lovebirds tied the knot at Sheria House, and 'strangers' witnessed them exchange vows.

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"My family thought it was a joke when I told them I was getting married to Deborah. The guy we used to live with and a cyber cafe operator we met in town were present. They are the ones who signed our marriage certificate," he recalled.
Bernard Musyoki and Deborah Jan.
On February 2, 2021, Bernard Musyoki and Deborah Jan tied the knot at Sheria House. Photo: Bernard Musyoki.
Source: UGC

Mixed reactions

Musyoki, half his wife's age, said he received mixed reactions after travelling to Mwingi to introduce Deborah to his family.

"Some people were saying she is my sponsor, utatoa mtoto wapi na hawezi zaa...all kinds of stuff," he recalled.


"Initially, my mother was not for the idea, but later she accepted Deborah."

God-sent angel

Musyoki, who used to work at a Christian NGO located in Kitui, lost his job in April 2020 after Covid-19 ravaged the globe, and his loving Mzungu wife has been paying his bills.

"She used to send me money and even last year, she sent me money to buy a car," he said.

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The soft-spoken man said after marriage, they had the best four months before Deborah left. The 70-year-old, who lives in Michigan, US, was forced to extend her visa for a few months and on June 8, she had to leave the country before it expired.

"We have been talking daily, and I really miss her."

He recently contacted the embassy hoping this time around he would be lucky, but he wasn't.

Musyoka pampered the mom of two with love, and he said:

"She is very loving. She calls me three times a day. I enjoyed every moment we spent during the time she was bed and everything."

True love

Musyoki maintained that he is genuinely after love and not money.

"Age is just but a number. If you love someone, follow your heart.True love exists no matter the age difference. I love her and would like to take care of her especially now that she is aging," he said.

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The Kenyan man said he is hopeful that one day the US Embassy will give him a visa so that he can reunite with his wife.

"We would want to spend our life together," he said.

Oyinbo wife advises Nigerians

Meanwhile, earlier reported that Natalia Mufutau, a white lady married to a Nigerian man spoke about the issue of relocating abroad and advised Nigerians.

In an exclusive interview with's Abisola Alawode, the woman said that though the country is battling with many challenges, there are still good things in the nation.

Natalia added that things are not even as easy in Europe as people think. According to her, it is so easy to get distracted over there. The woman mentioned Nigerians who excelled in Europe because they were focused.


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