Lady Gives 4 Reasons She Doesn't Want to Get Married, Says She's Not Wife Material
- A young lady has drawn the attention of many people to her post, as she said she would never want to get married
- She used her past relationship as an example and shared why her ex thought she was always spending time with someone else
- She gave 4 reasons in the post to make people understand her point and to respect her decision not to marry
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A young woman has openly declared herself as someone who is not wife material and would not want to get married to a man.
She explained the reasons for her statement in a video she shared on her page, which attracted the attention of a few people.
Source: TikTok
Lady says she won't marry, gives reasons
The young lady gave 4 reasons to back her claim and also shared an experience from her past relationship with a man she liked very much.
In the TikTok video, she said she had never dreamed of being a wife to anyone or wearing a wedding gown.
Giving her reasons, she said:
"Reasons why I'm not wife material and I don't want to get married."
"1. I have never dreamt of being a wife. I have never dreamt of wearing a wedding dress or living with a man or being married to a man."
After explaining that the first reason she wouldn't marry is that she doesn't see herself as wife material, she gave another reason, saying she does not forgive easily and may struggle in marriage, as forgiveness is important for keeping a marriage going.
@iam.thiea explained:
"2. I am very self-aware, I am very observant and that has been both a blessing and a curse, and because of that, I am not able to forgive and forget in the way that married women are advised to forgive and forget in order to keep the marriage going."
Source: TikTok
The young lady also spoke about her personal life as the first daughter who has a lot of responsibilities:
"3. I don't like stress, life is already stressful enough for me. As a firstborn daughter, I've had to raise people all my life. I am tired of that and the last thing I want is to have a full-grown man to raise and clean up after him."
Lastly, she used her last relationship as an example, saying she mostly wants to be alone most of the time, but her ex did not understand this, which led to issues in their relationship.
She explained:
"4. I like to be alone like 80 percent of the time. I don't want to have to deal with anybody, and because of this, I have a lot of issues in my last relationship."
Mr. Godwin Ogwuche, a relationship expert at Goru Counseling and Therapy Services, spoke with Legit.ng on the young lady’s decision not to get married.
Speaking on whether it is healthy for someone to decide not to marry because of problems from a past relationship, Ogwuche said it is understandable for a person to become cautious about marriage after a painful experience. However, he noted that allowing one bad relationship to completely determine how someone views future relationships may not be healthy.
"I think it is understandable for someone to become afraid of marriage after experiencing a painful relationship, but completely shutting the door on marriage may mean allowing the past to determine the future. A bad relationship can teach you what to avoid, but it should not automatically convince you that every future relationship will end the same way."
"What is more important is to understand what happened in the previous relationship, heal from the experience, identify the mistakes or red flags, and become emotionally prepared for another relationship. Taking time away from relationships to heal is healthy; deciding that nobody can ever be trusted again because of one person's actions can become unhealthy."
On whether a person who does not forgive easily can have a healthy marriage, he explained that it could be difficult because marriage involves two imperfect people who will offend, disappoint and misunderstand each other at different times.
"It will be very difficult. Marriage requires two imperfect people who will offend, disappoint and misunderstand each other at different times. If someone finds it extremely difficult to forgive, they may continue to keep records of past offences, bring old issues into new arguments and gradually build resentment."
"But forgiveness does not mean tolerating abuse or pretending that nothing happened. There should still be accountability, boundaries and change where necessary."
"However, when a person refuses to release genuine hurts even after the issue has been addressed, it can make emotional intimacy and trust very difficult in marriage. So before getting married, a person needs to honestly examine their ability to forgive, communicate hurt and allow healing to take place."
Mr. Godwin Ogwuche also advised couples to have important conversations about marriage before deciding to take the step. He said people should look beyond their feelings and discuss the practical issues that could affect their lives together.
"They should also discuss their past experiences and anything that could affect the marriage. The purpose is not to look for a perfect partner, because nobody is perfect. It is to understand each other clearly and determine whether they have the maturity, values, willingness and capacity to build a life together."
"Love may bring two people together, but honest conversations help them know whether they are truly prepared for marriage."
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In a similar story, Legit.ng reported that a young Nigerian lady sparked widespread debate on social media after declaring that she has no intention of getting married.
In a viral TikTok video, she explained that she does not believe in praying for a man to love her, describing it as a form of “ritual” that goes against free will. She also said she does not want children, especially a daughter, because of concerns about how women are treated in society.
Lady explains why she won’t marry
Meanwhile, Legit.ng recently reported that a Nigerian lady sparked mixed reactions after saying she had no plans to get married.
She explained that nothing about marriage appealed to her and said she would rather focus on her purpose in life than become someone's wife. Her video went viral as many people shared different opinions about her decision.
Source: Legit.ng
