- Nigerian comedian, Alibaba, has come out to address single mothers demonizing their baby fathers
- According to him, it is okay to vent and show hurt but it isn't okay to deny the child of having a father in its life
- He went on to state that if a single mother can properly take care of the child, then she is allowed to block the father and move on rather than making them look like monsters
Social media users by now, are overly familiar with Nigerian celebs like Tonto Dikeh fighting dirty with her estranged ex-husband, Olakunle Churchill over their failed marriage. The actress who has gone on to block Churchill from having any access to their son, never misses an opportunity to throw jabs at him.
Perhaps, it is with this in mind that ace Nigerian comedian, Alibaba, has taken to social media to write about single mothers who often demonize the fathers of their children and most times, block them from having a life with their kids.
In a long and detailed post, he wrote: "Very often, you will see ladies who make the fathers of their children look like monsters. The said father may be the best father the child ever wished for, but, the mothers' hurt will not let the fathers have the opportunity to show the child that love. Many years ago, a certain wife of a Nigerian career diplomat, posted to East Africa, had a messy and sour marriage. It was a very popular case.
The woman resorted to making sure she flung all kinds of dirt at the Diplomat. She even asked the Nigerian Government to recall him and dismiss him. While she was all out to ruin him. She forgot that her children were depending on their father's support to make a headway in life. The Solomonic dilemma came to play again. If I can't have him, then let me mess his career up.
The truth is that if you think about it, the only time it's ok, to deny the father of your child access to the child and by so doing, denying the father an opportunity to play a role in the child's life, BECAUSE YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH THE FATHER, you are using your reggae to spoil the child's blues. No one stops you from being upset. And in deed, no one can stop you from venting. But if in the process of doing that vexing, don't let that mess up the relationship the child will have with the father.
In summary, If you know you cannot give the child or children, the kind of life they deserve, and you know the father can give them, all they need, don't block their access to him. But if you can do better than him, ignore the guy and move on. Don't give yourself unnecessary pressure. If the father has and can give, don't block him from being the father. You can do more with all the assistance. Even if you are Oprah Winfrey"
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Recall some time ago on Mother's Day in April 2019, actress Tonto Dikeh took to social media to blast people who were against her son retaining her surname instead of his father's.
Many people noticed she wrote her son's name as 'King Andre Dikeh' instead of his father's name and as expected, they criticized and advised her against shutting out the father from the life of their son.
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