28-year-old Divorced Lady Shares Why She’s Afraid of Getting Married Again, Sparks Mixed Reactions

• A young divorced lady shared why she was afraid of going into marriage again, as she shared her reasons
• She narrated her family background and gave reasons for her fear of remarrying, sparking mixed reactions
• Netizens advised her after she mentioned her reasons, while some shared their similar experiences

A 28-year-old divorced lady shared why she was afraid of getting married again.

She opened up about her failed marriage and her family background, stating that she had two kids.

In a TikTok post by @chisomfevy, the lady shared her experience with her mum and stepmum.

She said:

“I am 28 and I am not ashamed to say I have 2 kids. I am divorcee. I call my stepmum my biological mother because she played that role more than my own biological mother.

“I am afraid of failing my daughter because my biological mother failed me in many ways. I am afraid of going into marriage again because my mother’s second marriage also failed. I am always scared of my daughter remarrying because my mother married twice too.”

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In a chat with Legit.ng, a marital coach, Esther Usetim, shared her opinion on the divorced woman's plight.

She said:

"First and foremost, she needs to recognise that her mother’s story is not her destiny, even though it can serve as wisdom, but not a warning label on her own life. Her mother’s marriage may have failed due to some specific circumstances, personalities, and many other choices.

"She should understand that she is a different woman, shaped by her own lessons, faith and growth. Her mother’s past should teach her what to avoid, not fear. Let her redefine marriage on her own terms."

Reactions trail lady’s fear of remarriage

@sandrapurple said:

"Why exactly do you want to remarry. this has nothing to do with spirituality,long lasting marriages are as a result of plenty pretending and covering up from the woman's end, women sacrifice themselves to uphold that union,if you divorced it's cuz you became smart and put yourself first at some point but why wanting to go through such stress again for the second time and please don't say companionship cuz ain't nobody more lonely Dan a married woman."

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@Photographer | Picture Editor said:

"Your mom marriage failed? This is one of the reason I’m still married. My parents are separated. I’m scared of continuing that line. I’m scared for my daughter. I don’t want a family pattern."

@Ahuzi Blessing said:

"Even your Ex isn’t remarried,you guys can work it out again…but if you insist on staying alone …remarry but this time be very spiritual for it to work out,and stand in the gap for your children,most of your warfare prayers should focus on marital patterns."

@ADAEZE | LIFE_UNSHAMED said:

"Guyyyyyyyy. This feels like someone else telling my story, currently 27, divorced with 2 kids, I turned down an offer from my aunt to travel this January because I was scared of leaving my kids behind. Omo. I survived a lot even secret battles that I can’t share."

@Queen Cassie said:

"Wow! To think that am also in the same shoes as you are and you are also my name sake and live in the same city with me. Yes, I have 3 daughters and a divorcee and I live in kaduna too."

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@Alice Inyangè said:

"It’s okay, relax. Don’t be afraid. Always do what makes you happy even if it means dating again. It’s not by force to marry also. Enjoy yourself."

@Labeeimport said:

"Generational evil pattern , it’s a serious issue."

In related stories, a man divorced his wife over his son’s medical bills, while a lawyer shared why he handled divorce cases despite being a pastor.

Divorced lady speaks on advice to married women

Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a young lady who got divorced said she would not advise other women to leave their abusive marriages.

She shared her experience when she decided to leave her husband and why her advice was hers alone.

Those who came across the post had mixed reactions and shared their thoughts on the lady's remarks.

Source: Legit.ng