"It Hurt": Lady Cries Out As Man Refuses To Marry Her For Speaking Pidgin Fluently, Shares Her Story

• A Nigerian lady shared her heartbreak after a man she had known for years refused to marry her, saying her ability to speak pidgin fluently was a dealbreaker
• She explained that she speaks English well and only occasionally uses a little pidgin with friends and family
• The incident left her deeply hurt, and she documented the experience online, sharing her pain and the conversations she had with the man

A Nigerian lady laments heartbreak after being told by her date that he would never marry her because she speaks pidgin fluently.

She shared the story on her page, documenting her experience and how it made her feel hearing such comments from him.

Lady shares heartbreak after man rejects her for speaking pidgin fluently

She clarified that she speaks English very well and is very sound, but sometimes uses a little pidgin when speaking with friends and siblings, not fluently.

However, whenever this guy was around her, he did not like her speaking pidgin and complained several times about it.

According to a post she shared on her page, @elegantglow_ via the popular social media platform TikTok, the incident and the guy’s statement left a deep impact on her, and it is something she cannot forget. She also confided in a friend about what happened.

She explained that during one of their conversations about relationships, the guy told her he would never date or marry someone like her because of her use of pidgin.

Her post carried a caption that read:

"How a man I have known for 2 years said he cannot date me because I speak pidgin fluently."

She gave a detailed breakdown of the story as follows:

"He claimed that I know how to speak pidgin fluently. This sounds funny, but it actually happened. I have known him for more than 2 years, because I started talking to him in 2021. We stopped talking permanently about 2 years ago or last year, I have forgotten."

"It is not even like I used to speak pidgin fluently. First, he was complaining that he does not like the way I speak pidgin with my siblings, that as the firstborn I am supposed to set a good example and not always speak pidgin."

"It is not like I cannot speak English. The way he was making it sound was like I do not know how to speak English at all."

"If it were like he did not know how to speak pidgin, I would understand, but he speaks pidgin with his friends. He said he does not like it when a girl he is talking to, if you want to enter a relationship, speaks pidgin together with him."

"There was one time we were talking about a proper relationship, and he literally told me that he cannot be in a relationship with me, nor can he marry me, because I speak pidgin fluently. He wants someone smart enough who knows how to speak good and fluent English."

"The thing shocked me, it pained me. I called my friends and shared everything because it really hurt."

The post caught the attention of social media users who have flooded the comment section to share their opinions about the incident.

Reactions as lady explains heartbreak

Mustapha stressed:

"Pidgin can be fun among friends, but many men don’t find it attractive when women use it often. It’s seen as a street language, mostly used by guys to show dominance or bond with their boys. But when women speak it, it can come off as rough or lacking class. As men who value elegance and modesty, we naturally admire women who carry themselves with grace and speak in a refined way. It just makes them stand out as more respectable and desirable."

Lubabah noted:

"If I con speak my Yoruba unko."

Meenarh shared:

"It’s coz you are comfortable with them.and if he can’t accept you that way his loss my dear."

Tovie_Couture said:

"You sef stop speaking pidgin."

Davina Ehimwenma shared:

"Tor, me as a barrack girl na pidgin we talk dey relate well inside barracks ohh."

Davina Ehimwenma wrote:

"Tor, me as a barrack girl na pidgin we talk dey relate well inside barracks ohh."

Zeeroyal| UGC stressed:

"My talking stage did that to me 2019."

Hauwa added:

"Mine was the opposite with an ex he said I speak too much fluent English that’s why we were always quarreling I guess he felt intimidated."

Outsider nail tech stated:

"Meaning say if na me eh the boy go just craze."

Muyeenah shared:

"Someone told me something similar months ago. He said how can I be so fluent in pidgin. But I asked him what he expected from an only girl."

zeenat_delight said:

"Your pidgin get bad character."

TAREMI KEREBI noted:

"I know a guy that said he doesn't like girls that speak pigin fluently , but oga doesn't know the meaning of tertiary institution. To think he's a uni student that doesn't know what a tertiary institution is."

Abdulraqeeb shared:

"I think he's not interested ni, and it's an excuse to dump you or leave you."

Its__ feeyarh said:

"If a man finds his lady speaking pidgin as irritating then check well he no really sabi better English it’s cover up my dear."

batuul_88 noted:

"Omo this ur guy is funny ooooo. Who English help, if you can’t speak pidgin with ur man den what are you doing in the relationship."

Lady Leaves Date Early, Says Man Is a Red Flag

Meanwhile, Legit.ng earlier reported a funny yet dramatic incident involving a Nigerian lady who abruptly abandoned her date after spending less than two hours.

According to her friend, she returned home disappointed and frustrated, expressing regret over the experience and declaring that she would no longer get involved in romantic relationships.

Source: Legit.ng