My Ex-boyfriend Treated Me Anyhow, I Fell in Love With His Neighbour and Married Him: Lady Narrates
- Daisy Mwembula lost her job in 2020 due to COVID-19 and moved in with her boyfriend as she sought another job
- She said her then-boyfriend began neglecting and looking down on her since she had no income
- The boyfriend even asked her to find a house help job where she could stay away from his house
- The frustrations made her open up to their single next-door neighbour who proposed to marry her and together moved into another house
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When one door closes another one opens is a common motivational line, which Daisy Mwembula, a Nairobi-based woman fully relates to.
Mwembula disclosed that the revelation of the love of her life came during a huge storm fanned by her ex-boyfriend who she had just moved in with in 2020 when she lost her job.
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Speaking to TUKO.co.ke, Mwembula said the effects of the pandemic that rendered many Kenyans jobless did not spare her and pushed her to move in with her then-boyfriend in Kayole.
She said:
“At first he was supportive but after a two weeks he began being irritated that I didn’t have a job. Every moment he told me to go look for a job which I did but unluckily I never got one."
Cold bed, cold nights
The lady disclosed that the boyfriend began neglecting her, refused to share the bed with her and even locked the TV when he left on grounds that these made her too comfortable to search for a job.
She said:
“Things got thick and I continued being worried. My ex-boyfriend showed me an attitude that precisely meant I should leave as I was a burden to him. He even asked me to find a house help job where I would stay away from his house."
She reminisced that her numerous efforts to seek a new job to support her then-lover failed to materialise and the man could not just understand her, instead took advantage of looking down upon her.
In the midst of this storm, the lady said she found a listening ear in a next-door neighbour to whom she could rant and confide her frustrations.
Mwembula narrated:
“He always gave a listening ear and I became comfortable to share everything that was bothering with me. He sympathised with me and told me to keep the home in the beginning."
Caring neighbour
It was during these conversations that the woman confessed she began valuing the neighbour and their friendship was enhanced.
She disclosed:
“Couple the kindness with handsomeness, the man began being irresistible to me but there was nothing I could do because it’s sometimes awkward for a lady to make advances. Fortunately, the man one posed that he wanted to marry me."
In the beginning, she was confused and nervous about the proposal but when the neighbour who was single said he wanted to move in with her and she should look for a house where they would begin life together, she was content he was serious and gave in.
Mwembula opened up:
“He said I could not move into his house because it would stir conflict and would turn out to be disrespectable. So he tasked me to look for a one-bedroom house and I helped move his belongings there when my ex-lover had gone to work."
New relationship
After moving the neighbour’s belongings to a new house with the knowledge of the caretaker, Mwembula said she told her disgruntled ex-lover that she had gotten a stay away job and left.
“On the evening I moved out. I told my ex that I had found a job that requires I stay there and he happily blessed me to leave, not knowing that would be the last day we would be a piece,” added Mwembula.
Over a year down the line, Mwembula said that moving in with the neighbour at the expense of a cruel lover is the best decision she ever made.
She said:
“We relocated to somewhere around Njiru. Happily married and the union has gotten better every day because we support each other in every way we can. I am expecting our first child and full of gratitude."
Support your husband's second wife move
Meanwhile, Legit.ng earlier reported that a Kenyan Muslim woman asked women to support their husbands should they decide to marry second wives.
The lady addressed her fellow women via a TikTok video that was shared by @nps254 and has since gone viral. She said women should stop fighting men because polygamy is a normal thing.
She said:
"If his parents do not fight over him, who are you to fight over a married man? So when a man decides he wants to marry, pray that he will get a good wife and one who together you can support and help each other."
Source: Legit.ng
