Tems Opens Up on Why She Can Never Marry For Love Alone: "You Could Just Discard Me"

• Tems argued that marriage should be viewed as a tool for personal evolution and advancement rather than a decision based on fleeting emotions
• The singer insisted her partner must be accountable to a higher power, questioning how a man could ever commit to loving one woman forever
• The singer emphasised that compatibility and character outweigh romance when the "rosy" days end

Nigerian music star Tems has given fans a rare glimpse into her mindset on love and marriage.

In a recent interview with media personality Angie Martinez, the award-winning singer spoke candidly about relationships, commitment, and what truly sustains a marriage.

For many, love is seen as the foundation of marriage. But for Tems, it goes much deeper.

According to the singer, marriage should not be built on emotions alone but on growth, compatibility, and purpose.

“Marriage is something that makes you better as a human being. It should,” she explained.

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She emphasised that while love is important, it is not enough to sustain a lifelong commitment.

“It shouldn’t be about only love, it’s about compatibility… whether a relationship makes you a better person,” she added.

Tems also addressed what she believes many people overlook when entering marriage — the difficult moments.

Unlike fairy-tale expectations, she noted that marriage comes with challenges that test both partners.

“Marriage is a whole another level… it’s supposed to bring out the hard times,” she said.

Her words paint a picture of marriage as a journey that requires resilience, not just romance.

Tems made it clear that she values accountability in a relationship — something she believes is rooted in faith.

“My partner has to be a God-fearing man,” she stated.

Explaining further, she questioned how someone without a sense of accountability could commit fully to love.

“If you’re the god of your life, why would you love me forever? You could just discard me anytime you want,” she said.

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For her, faith provides a sense of responsibility that strengthens commitment.

Watch the interview here:

Reactions trail Tems's interview

Legit.ng compiled the reactions of social media users below:

@MojiTruths stated:

"Tems is speaking facts here. Marriage, when done right with the right person, does push you to grow, take responsibility, and become a better version of yourself. It's not magic though, wrong partner and it can break you instead. Wise words from her."

@kasalioluw82460 noted:

"Fact! Marriage will make your life better as long as you Marry right. Not you getting married to a woman who can’t construct simple sentence but always chasing wigs and latest iPhones."

@Shegegong shared:

"Tems is actually right here , Marriage really shapes couples, no lie… but only if both people are ready to grow together. Marriage will teach patience, responsibility and sacrifice… no be small thing. Kudos to all married couples out ther"

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Legit.ng earlier reported that controversial American adult content creator, King Nasir, opened up about his deep admiration for Nigerian singer and Grammy Award winner, Tems.

In a recent interview with Nigerian content creator Egungun, Nasir, who is currently in Nigeria, described the artist as his 'female Nigerian crush'.

He added that he wouldn’t hesitate to spend time with the singer if given the chance, remarking, “My female crush is Tems. Film or not filming, whatever she wants to do, I’m down."

Source: Legit.ng