- Social media life coach and feminist, Solomon Buchi, has come out to speak on the true nature of some Igbo men
- According to him, most Igbo men have bloated egos and are uncouth
- Buchi stated this while trying to make Nigerians understand how they react to stereotyping tribes
Earlier on, a Nigerian lady took to social media to put Igbo men on full blast, describing them as misogynists. She received major backlash on social media for her view on the issue.
Reacting to this, a life coach and popular social media feminist, Solomon Buchi, has come out to defend her, stating that Igbo men are indeed misogynistic and Nigerians should learn to understand difference between stereotyping and generalizing.
In a very detailed post about it, he wrote: "If I say that Igbos are hardworking, a lot of y’all will nod and agree with me. But if I say that Igbo men are typically misogynistic, you bash and cuss me out. Why would you agree to a conclusive positive statement and not take criticisms that way too?
"First off, there’s really a problem with selective stereotypes. Besides, stereotypes are stereotypes because they have truths in them. We will say Yoruba people love parties. Hausas are hospitable and united. Igbos are hardworking and business oriented. Yeah?
"Now, in that same light, there are sides to the positives too. Igbo men are highly misogynistic; this is not tribalism. This isn’t fueling ethnocentrism; this is just a truth. If you call it a generalization then let’s look at our hypocrisy..
"Nigerians will come online and say the police is tough, bad and tyrannical towards the citizens. The police is mostly painted in bad light. Nobody remembers that’s stereotyping. There are freaking good police men but outnumbered by the bad ones.
"What am I trying to say? When someone calls out a tribe; criticizing them, don’t even come claiming its stereotyping because we all freaking stereotype and it’s not always bad! We all know every stereotype has exceptions!
"Do Akwa Ibom people love dog meat? Yes! Many but then not ALL! Are Nigerian politicians corrupt? Most not all! What am I saying? There’s always something peculiar to a group of people! Good and bad! Now back to the main talk..
"They usually feel like they are demigods especially when they have money; they feel entitled to a woman and everything about her. Their ego is bloated and honestly usually uncouth. This is the truth. They’d tell you how they can feed you in disdain just because you refused to comply to their proposal. They’d remind you how they have someone your mate that they are taking care of.
"They’d get married to a woman and turn her to a housewife by force. Control you like you don’t have a mind of your own.The Igbo traditional practices don’t help. They have misogyny so entrenched in them. The woman is seen as a lesser gender. It’s prevalent with Igbos, the obsession with male children is just so much.
"And even when a there’s a girl child, there are Igbo sayings like: “Nwoke bu ugwu nwanyi”. This means that a man is the dignity of a woman. Like saying a woman is incomplete without a man.
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There are many instances. Ask women around you. Many of them will conform to you. I am not saying all Igbos are this way but trust me it’s more difficult to make a typical Igbo man to consider gender equality than any other tribe.
Quite an interesting point of view!
Meanwhile, Nollywood actress Tonto Dikeh was quoted saying she can never marry an Igbo man because they are too nosy. The reports which is dated April 3, 2012 was carried by an online media house, Nigerianfilms.com.
Reacting to the reports, Tonto Dikeh took to her Instagram page to debunk the reports, stating that they were fake. She went on to express her shock at the reports as she is Igbo herself and can never say such a thing.
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