- Nigerian singer, Lami Phillips, has shared her struggled with her looks as a child
- According to the singer, she knew she was not the prettiest
- Lami recounted that she was always teased about her appearance by her parents' friends but she dust it all off with her sense of humour
Coming from a family of beautiful people can do a lot to one’s confidence level if the person’s looks is not as pleasing as that of other family members.
Some Nigerians are also very blunt and lack tact as they compare pretty family members with their not so good looking siblings. This can cause quite a bit of trauma for the subject of the ridicule and it takes a great deal of self-love to overcome such feeling.
Talented Nigerian singer, Lami Phillips, might look very glamorous to a number of her fans but she recently shared her struggles with her appearance as a child.
According to her, she got to know from a young age that she was not the prettiest family member. She added that her parent’s friends sometimes made statements about how black she was or why she looked like a boy. Some even wondered why she was dark skinned like her father compared to her mother’s light complexion.
All these statements made the singer subconsciously question her looks till she decided to ignore the effects it started to have on her and joked about it instead.
As she grew older, Lami started to discover that she was more than ordinary and beautiful.
She wrote: "Yeah.. that’s me.. the darkest person in the picture. I grew up “knowing” that I wasn’t the prettiest. My parents friends would joke “blacky”.. or ask me in Yoruba “ki lo de to se jo okunrin bayi “ ( why do you look so much like a boy). I was told I was short and thick ( it sounds worse in Yoruba).. I was also asked why i looked like my dad. Why wasn’t I light skinned like my mother? So many questions... all somehow directed at making me subconsciously question the way I looked. Over time.. I decided to ignore or compartmentalize those insecurities. I ignored the fact that I was somewhat unrecognizable in photographs or less favored for certain opportunities. I was never called pretty as much as I can remember. I convinced myself that I was ordinary. Thank God for my sense of humour because I allowed it all dust off my shoulders by joking about it. So as a teenager when a boy said he liked me .. I wouldn’t believe it. Why would he like me when there are others prettier than me? Little did I know that I was far from ordinary. Little did they know.. that I was beautiful... To understand the fruit we must examine the root. Excuse me as I pursue purpose. (Most people won’t understand the “purpose” or meaning of this post/caption.. and that’s ok too)"
Self-love is the best type of love.
In other news, Legit.ng reported that media personality, Bolanle Olukanni, showed off her stretch marks in self-love post on social media.
It takes a lot of courage and many pep talks for a woman in 2019 to love herself completely without fear. Bolanle recently showed the world how much she has risen from a low place to completely loving her perceived flaws.
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